DISQUS

Mimzy · 1 year ago

That happens on IM, too, and I think it's even worse then. Say a lot of people are online, and the person you IM is clearly not idle or away, and they don't respond for a while... :-)

Jonathan Kleiman · 1 year ago

terrible. Sometimes I get back to my computer and see on my msn:

"hello?"
"HEY"
"WHERE ARE YOU"
"FINE IGNORE ME"
"I HATE YOU"
"ARGGGG"

Nick Gonzalez · 1 year ago

Definitely had the experience. Sometimes I mark a message for reply in my mind because I want to write a good response, but then I forget to go back to it.

Wills · 1 year ago

I do. Its called priority management. Maybe your message just isn't important enough to warrant an immediate response!

yazz · 1 year ago

i have friends that feel snubbed when someone doesn't add them on facebook even though they are sure those friends know of their facebook presence.

in fact, one of her friends tagged her bf in his bday party album without bothering to add them as a friend.

i guess that's another sort of "accidental f*** you!"

Ling · 1 year ago

Well, what happens in the Inbox stays in the Inbox ~ I think some folks need more time to reply to messages as opposed to other stuff like wall scrawling and status updates. Maybe I'm a hardened soul. If they really wanna reply to you, they will.

Matthieu Moyse · 1 year ago

Hem, isn't it the "social dependence issue" ? Immediacy of response is not a sign of interest for you or the subject at any time... And not responding in the second is not necessarily a way people communicate (thanks to those marvellous tools like email, FB, post mail, fax... to let us think of what to answer).
And you are not alone to question yourself... http://www.web-strategist.com/blog/2007/11/30/a...

Jonathan Kleiman · 1 year ago

Yea I wasn't saying I was actually being snubbed... just that I can't help but feel like it. It's the "accidental f*** you", after all :)

Eric Dewhirst · 1 year ago

Ohh I totally agree! I want Facebook to implement a flag that says that the person has read the message. They know when someone loaded the message so they should tell me. Just like my blackberry - I PIN someone and instantly I know that the message has arrived on their device.

Not responding to a message in your inbox is akin to walking away while someone is talking to you. Seriously this is a new world - get with the program and shoot back a quick reply - even if it says - really busy - will try and get back. I can cut some slack if the person you are sending a message to does not know you - or they are known to be busy - like sending Robert Scoble a message - I can let that slide.

Cheers - Eric
www.pickuppal.com

rebecca · 1 year ago

oh yes totally.... even though i know I am also just often not in the mood to reply to a message and might procrastinate on it for a while for no apparent reason I can get very irritated when I see other doing this...

Sara Clark · 1 year ago

Yes, it annoys me, it is just damn rude.